Do you know how to talk to women without fear of rejection? Do you get nervous and worry about what you're going to say next?
I've felt that way and even the smoothest guy in the world has. The problem is that guys place far too much importance on just talking to the women they want.
The Simple Secret I Found
In my line of work I get to talk to dozens of women every week, they range in age from 18-50+, some are hot, some are pretty, some are cute, some are shy, some are average, some are cheeky... all types of women.
I've been doing this for a few years and I feel comfortable talking with any woman. Apart from on the job, I'll talk to women and men, in lifts, in shops, waiting in line... on the street passing by. I don't treat anyone different and because I feel comfortable about it... guess what?
They do too!
I have two major attitudes running through me at all times
1) My goal each day is to talk to as many people as I can and just make them smile
2) I don't care what people think of me because I think it's a pretty darn good goal.
You don't need a socially approved setting such as a bar or club to talk. What I've discovered so far is when I open my mouth during the day people talk to me.
STEP 1 - Initiate Small Talk
Start making small talk with everyone you come into contact with.
When talking to a woman connect with the emotion of her conversation. Men tend to connect with other men around, sport, games, cars, work, with women you need to relate to her feelings.
Let's say she's talking about how tired she feels today because of working long hours.... don't talk to her about work, necessarily, talk about the feeling of being tired.
Or... On the weekend if she had a really happy and fun time at a party, talk about the feeling of being happy, something that made you feel happy recently.
Don't talk about things... talk about how it makes you/her feel.
For more tips on How to talk to women using Emotional Connections Subscribe to "Charisma Tips" Free Podcast in itunes. Listen to the episode ... "The Power of Emotional Connection".
STEP 3 - Closing
If you feel you would like to meet up with her again... let her know.
Say... "It's been fun chatting with you...let's hang out sometime".... Pull out your phone and ask her to punch in her numbers.
Do you need a ton of confidence to know how to talk to women?
Confidence Isn't Something You Learn
Confidence can be broken down into two concepts or ideas
Confidence is what you gain by repetition and experience.
Confidence is the absence of
Seeking approval, being needy, being a yes man, worrying about what to say, worrying about what people think of you... etc etc and the list could go on.
Confidence is something we tend to think about as a quality we have to learn... no it isn't
Think about something that you do well such as, driving your car. While you are driving are you thinking WOW... I feel so confident doing this..... no you don't.
Your just doing it!
And because you have done it over, and over and over, you don't think about it. You don't get nervous, you don't worry about what people think of your driving...... your just doing it.
Having confidence comes from repetition and experience and applies to all we learn in life and of course knowing how to talk to women.
